My problem is mainly not about establishing a friendship as I do have a few good friends here and where I am now, yes they are white. My dilemma was usually at work when you feel you are being treated less than equal. From the time I posted the first message till now, things have changed for the better. I have now moved to another clinical site and everyone has been wonderful. Like Rob-Loc posting, every work place is different - sometimes you are treated with great respect but in another place you feel like you are back in the 2nd grade with a school full of bullies. I started to realise that now.
that deviated from the norm.”
Please don’t think of yourself as deviating from the norm.
70% of Americans are extroverted.
But that number can be reversed in other cultures.
Many intelligent and scientific people tend to be
introverted. Extroverts think outloud (sometimes without thinking).
Introverts are usually more introspective, caring, logical, loyal, and
It’s also true that opposites attract.
Some people say it’s like finding the other half
Introverts are attracted to extroverts for exposure to the
world. Extroverts are attracted to introverts for
stability. A marriage between two ENFJ’s would
never work. They would both be out flirting, cheating,
and not trusting each other. There would be extreme
competition for attention, and eventually hatred or boredom.
Since you are in the minority, you are a very valuable person.
I also fell in love with a thai women. She came to visit me over a year ago and she tells me she loves me all the time and shows me in many ways.
I think the thai people are very positive people and adjusting to live in Canada would be an easy transition if you can speak good English. There are lots of opportunities for hard working Asians in Canada.
Go for it :)
My love for thai people
It goes a long way to explain the cultural differences. It helped me immensly..................
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I'm thinking that you may be experiencing a general prejudice. You just need to find an area/city/neighborhood that is more of the melting pot where people of all cultures congregate. For example, southern california in general or Pasadena are areas that have many asian people living and working and you would likely find no shortage of friends.
I live in Hawaii and know many Thai and other asian people and we don't think any differently of one another. Perhaps you moved to follow your professional goals, but that may not be the best direction for you socially. I'm not very familiar with Utah, but my impression is that they are not no open minded as southern californians. All the best.
My company and I send students from China to the US. I inform them of how to over come this problem that so many Asians face. I encourage them to join clubs. There are many in every city in the US. Then you will be with people who have a common interest. The next thing is to be friends with the people you go to school with. You can start a conversation by sitting down in class, look over to the person next to you and say.......Did you get your homework completed? Did you think it was easy or hard or long or borning. Then they will start asking you "Where are you from?" Don't assume American's will know. Most American's want to talk to you but don't know what to say. If you start the conversation then they will jump in. If you only smile then American assume your smile means you are shy and your English is not good.
No worries. Be yourself and take risks. You have nothing to lose but loneliness.
Hope things work out. Your American Friend,Julia
My suggestion is not to run to Canada, because you will find the same problem or worse. The French - Canadians who only speak French.
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