Since Sept. of last year, I have been unofficialy married to her. We have discussed our registering of the marriage when I return in April of this year (in approx. 3 weeks).
She is not an educated woman. She has two children from a previous marriage to a foreigner from a far different culture than my own, different nationality altogether.
I believe her to be sincere, however I am a cautious and fairly educated man who tends to keep a weary perspective of my surroundings and situation.
My questions are these. Are Pre-Marital agreements honored by Thai law? How bad can I get screwed should things go sour? Will any portion of my american owned business fall at jeopardy by such a Thai divorce? If we have a child together, will I have any rights as the father?
These are some of my questions regarding a situation which I remain fully aware of and constantly weary. I already know that a woman will be the ultimate element that one day destroys me. Its unavoidable. Eve stuck it to Adam, and started the chain of events which still historicaly repeats itself to this day.
I want to rotect my assets, investments and all other things I have obtained in my short life, without putting them at risk. Thus, I have not ever married an American woman. My fathers own experiences saved me from that. So I decided to try a foreign girl, whom I believe may have more fundamental values and dedication.
Please help to inform an uneducated foreign man as to what my liabilities become by tieing the knot with someone who may be secretly awaiting my patient arrival to pen and paper.
Thanks in advance.
The Toxic Avenger!
Once her family think they have you in her trap, they'll most likely try fleecing you of everything they can get out of you.
This is what happens in most Thai-farang marriages. However, some do work out happily. But be very aware : Thailand has anti-foreigner laws which make the fleecing of foreigners very easy indeed. By the way, unless you are in Bangkok, much Thai law is only enforced in favour of the Thai. And even then there's nothing to stop a gunman simply being sent to intimidate/ kill you. It's very cheap to hire such people in Thailand.
that being said, my approach is primarily motivated by love, although I have a practical side that says I should be cautious and set up the union carefully. This should clear my conscience of any worry and allow us to grow emotionally without financial concerns like those expressed in the pre-nup.
It will be interesting to discuss this with her in a couple months when I visit her in Thailand for the third time.
I presume you and Toxic Intl are the same person. I am an American married to a Thai woman. Let me give you some of my life experiences as concerns marriage. First, learn from others mistakes rather than making them yourself. Do your homework on this lady. Where did you meet her? Did you have sex the first night? Are you "helping the family out?" Is money going to the lady? What is her job? Do you accept her word on her past experiences without checking things out? Has there been a request for Sin Sot (dowry money) and how much? Don't answer these questions on this forum, answer them to yourself.
Remember also, that there is another foreigner just like you who fell in love with her . He planned to take care of her and love her just like you. Why did they get divorced? Did he pay Sin sot?
I have been married for 4 years and I still feel uneasy about alot of things ...particularly the things deliniated in Ianbeale's post.
Don't automatically assume that you are going to bring this lady to the US and she is going to be forever grateful and will take care of you the rest of your life.
There is not enough space to write of my experiences, the experiences of my friends, and the books that I have read on Thailand. My recommendation is to go very very slow... and than slow down a bit more. Check things out.. If she has a job, call her LAND line, not her mobile phone. If you are coming to Thailand, come unannounced a few days early....
When you are buying a home, investing in stocks, wouldn't you do an in-depth analysis?
After spending time working and living in Thailand I have grown weary. I have seen and experienced too much. I have since returned to the US. I was so happy to return. While on my way back in the Narita airport I found a writing on the wall of the toilet that I would like to share. It was so profound that I wrote it down. It said, "This is my last flight home after living in Thailand for 5 years. I was the GM of a medium sized company. I leave with this life lesson to share with you. Don't trust anything anyone of them says. You may think they are stupid and you are probably right. but they excell at deception. It is all they know. They will exceed your wildest imagination to cheat, lie, and steal."
This comes from a man who has spent 5 years in Thailand. Learn from him.
Good Luck to you. I truly wish you well.
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