Sin sod and in-law

[sai]

you should to make her parents understand that you are not rich man but you love her with true heart,,i think they will understand,,sincere,,open-mind,,maybe you will solve this your case,,,but in my mind,,i dont care money if i love him,,,and my parents never wanted money from son-in-law too...

[Rooster]

Ian. Do every Australian men pay their child supports? Every states has their own ways of enforcing child support laws. And those two men were are below standard even comparing to Thai standard. Technically, they have to back pay their child support orders...but the some of the children are over eighteen already. They are not on any government supported welfare programs so the federal government is not involved in tracking them down. I heard that one of the father is working in England for a telecom business and married an English woman. So all these bull droppings about Thai men and foreign men are just that bull droppings. It is still best to follow the established cultural tradition of insuring marriage and protecting Thai women. With the modern day of 50% plus of marriages ended in divorce...love does not mean much, and it is the financial future of the single moms and their support networks that are more important. Western men will discard and or support anythings that would not inconvenienting them. With their cavalier attitudes toward love, sex, finance, family, and indifferent of foreign cultures, I would doubt very much that they will be of any better than local men. Anyway, well educated westerners with quality of their cultural backgrounds will treat Thai culture and Thai women badly. Beside, these men do not very gone out to seek out foreign women for wives since their local women would seek them out for themselves.

[a bitter]

Theseday, If you, son-in-law make single mistake, the girl's parent force the girl to divorce and re-marry richer farang through
internet marriage website, asking big money 500 -1,000,000.- Sin Sot.

Please be careful, all of new bridegroom.
Also you must rethink that it is not easy for you to accept Thai woman as one of your long dreaming princess.

Take second thought always.

[Pete]

Man I thought getting hit for a 300,000 Baht dowry was expensive. Time to Bail out old chap.

[a watcher]

To all alien would-be alien husband,

Refuse to pay Sin Sot. Whoever want Sin Sot, she is undereducated or is forced by her parents in form of human trafficking.
Well educated women do not ask for Sin Sot.

You must know that all most all of brides has past, such as still contacting old boy friends or hiding children. You must ask for the family census, original copy at county registration office by accompanying a lawyer.
You will find how her past marriage is and how many children she has.

If anyone ask for Sin Sot, and you pay, I believe you have big problem after marriage.
Be watchful.

[colin howard]

don,t be a mug give her parents naff all cos if she loves you she,ll marry you ,when my wife asked about the dowry i just told her i would give her a life she could only dream of ,and why should i give her parents one baht for the pleasure of doing so ,she replied oh its the thai way ,i replied no probs marry a thai then ,she soon came round to my way of thinking ,you,ve got to stick to your guns ,i,ve seen so many total idiots being taken to the cleaners by thai womens parents i,ve truly lost count ,unless you walk around with a white stick you will notice that farang men are as good as a lottery win , you,ve got to think with head and not the other part of your body ,i,ve been happily married now for 3 years , and so far have not given her parents one satang ,nor have i lent any of her friends money ,for me this is a recipe for disaster ,i need only add that now we,ve got our own house "her name" and just bought a iszuzu mu7"my name "and are as happy as pigs in muck .

[colin howard]

hi farang , looks like you know the score better than most of the total idiots out there whose brains move to there nether regions as soon as there feet touch the tarmac in bkok , thailand is a fab place to live without a doubt ,but you have to be vigilent cos not only is it the land of smiles but the land of sob storys too,i live in buriram in a little place called bankruat and i am amazed at how many of the farangs are taken in , many are keeping all the familys including the ladys husband !!, i think the secret is not to rush into anything you,re not 110% sure of ,i,ve been with the same lady now for 3 years and have no probs whatsoever ,my money is just for us two,i DON,T lend money which in my view is realy asking for trouble ,i lived here for 9 months before buying a house for a very modest sum ,my car is registerd in my name cos it cost twice as much as my house !,my advise to anybody who comes to live here is to buy nothing you can,t afford to walk away from ,all in all just keep your head screwed on and you will reap the benifits of living in a country where the cost of living is a third of what it is in blighty .

[colin howard]

sorry siper but tip of the iceberg is correct , stop being an absolute mug ,wake up and smell the coffee, you are being treated like a cash cow without a doubt ,theres millions of thai ladys who would give there right arm for someone like you without a dowry ,drop her like a hot potato and look around , all you will ever know with the likes of her is misery ,is it any wonder why the thais call us "stupid farangs" you are behaving like someone who is swimming in a lake of sweet water and dying of thirst .

[LazarusLong]

In general my feelings are somewhat mixed about sin sod. I do not consider the fact of sin sid immoral or unreasonable, but I'd say it will depend, as always, on the people involved.
I met a Thai girl three years before and it took me about a year to realize that it was indeed serious.Although I was verry much attracted to her charms and innocent honesty I was displeased by the greedy behavior of her mother and somehow unsure what to do.
Luckily, her cousin gave me some good advice and we finally married about one year ago. I left her mother the choice of taking 300.000 Baht (and never hear of me ever after) or get 10.000 a month plus whatever they may occasionally need. Both offers were tied to the condition that my wife's younger sister would be allowed to complete whatever education she would like to have and not forced to leave school at the age of 16 for "family benefit" like my wife who had to work 6 days a week in a low-paid cashiers job for 7500 baht a month. Maybe not surprisingly my mother-in law decided to go for the 10.000 a month. It's actually no bad solution as my wife is happy being able to support her family in Thailand while she can do what she wanted...going to University here in Canada to complete her education. We can apply the necessary bit of pressure to ensure her baby sis has what she needs. Knowing my share of Thai people I'd say that such greedy practice is neither the rule nor the exception...but before the Thai cultural background with its MUCH stronger family ties it is not all wrong. Although the results may be sometimes displeasing according to our standards it does bespeak a primarily positive attitude...social responsibility. We must also not forget that most farang, at least compared to the standards of Isan families are of unimagineable wealth and that their approach is somet imes plain naive - how should they know what is the cost of all-day living in Farangland ?

[colin howard]

i,m realy sorry mr long but i can,t believe why you think you should give your wifes mother one satang for giving her a lifestyle she could only dream of ,what did her mother ever do for her ?,they must view you as a real mug in my opinion ,i,ve been coming here since 89 and have now lived here for the past 3 years and in that time i,ve heard so many sob storys on how the farangs are being totaly ripped of by there wifes and inlaws you would not believe ,for instance theres one thai lady not 300 yards from my house who has 2 houses being built one from a german and one from an italian ,last week she brought an english guy round to our local bar ,he told me he,s got big plans !!,what the 3 of them don,t know is that she,s already married to a thai ,guess who is going to get the houses when they are finished ?,in no way do i blame the lady cos she,s thinking with her head and not the part of her body were the sun don,t shine ,if you have half a brain you will cut her mother off pronto ,of course she will threaten to leave you but if you stick by your guns you will find out its just hot air just as i did .