After seven years of marriage to my Thai wife, I am madly in love with her. Every year, every day, she gets better, our life gets better. She is a traditional Thai village girl with strong Buddhist beliefs and high honor. She is content with our level in society, she does not fall victim to 'epudee' notions of competing with other Thais in showing off by spending. Marriage to a 'rich farang' has not distorted her view on life, she knows that our security is much more important than the foolish shallow opinions of others. I helped her learn English and start with simple jobs until she qualified for a position at a national retailer where she is building seniority and a solid retirement account. In four years she has raised herself to trustworthy authority and 'top pay' in her category as cashier. I also gave her computers and helped her learn online stock market trading and now she manages her own investment accounts, where she has been very successful. I am enormously proud of her. I know other 'farang' whose experience is similar to mine, and to those who are having different results, look to yourself for why. Either you chose rashly and wrongly, or you have not learned how to bring out the best in a Thai woman. Understand that she needs a strong hand, so that she understands where you want to go and what you need from her. Understand also that when she gives herself to you, it is a deep commitment, and therefore you inherit a major responsibility to keep her as your highest priority and cherish her as a jewel, as your queen. She looks to you for inspiration, you have to become her hero. To do that, you have an obligation to become better than you are, bigger than you are. If you succeed in that, everything else will follow automatically.