How will you ever know?

[Healthy Buff]

Maximillien, base on your comment, thought you can't get any girls when you were in your country that's why you were flying around in this region like big butterfly. Well, your email sounded joint Thai & Farang name!! Salute you!!

[colin howard]

hi eppy , it would appear that you have been well and truly conned , its my view that you only have yourself to blame for this unfortunate incident , its also my view that in many cases this is through rushing headlong into the unknown without giveing your future a lot of forethought, and in closeing you seem to tar all thai ladys with the same brush , this of course is utter nonsense as many who subscribe to this forum will testify , best of luck , regards ,colin .

[colin howard]

hi max , got to hand it to you for speaking plain facts , but will the foolhardy listen ?, not a hope , i,m well beyond the butterfly stage in life and prefer to settle down with the right lady , this sort of thing works ok as long as you don,t lose track of life as it realy is in thailand ,but it would seem as you so well put it that as soon as them feet hit the runway tarmac in bkk that common sense is abandoned forever , regards ,colin .

[colin howard]

hi max , just had a couple of friends round for a cold beer we had a good laugh at your posting , one of my friends said that you must be well informed cos issan is the capital of thailand for sick buffalo,s !!!, regards ,colin .

[George]

First: I have been married to a Thai woman for 12 years. She is gorgeous, incredibly hard-working, and completely devoted. We own businesses in USA and in Thailand, and beautiful homes both places. And yes, she owns 51% of the Thailand property.

As she should. The person who wrote about the Chinese being able to own land does not know what happened in Thailand. When things went to hell in a handbasket for the Thai economy, the Chinese stepped up the plate the bailed out the Thais. The US, Canada, and Australia pulled their money and ran. THAT is why the Chinese can now own land.

Too many men think with the head between their legs and come crying when they get shafted. But on the other hand I have known LOTS of American men who get screwed by American (Caucasian) women and don't get on the Net and cry about it. A friend of mine built a lucrative pig farm in Iowa. He stated when he was six years old. He married at 21 to a woman who slept with him on the first date. She also slept with almost everyone else in town after they were married. She got EVERYTHING. she sold off the pigs, the barn and farmland, and the house separately. THEN he had to pay alimony. She had contributed absolutely nothing to the marriage except heartache. He was a very nice guy, not some wife-beater or anything like that.

BUT you don't see him on the Net.

You want to marry a Thai girl? First, CHECK OUT HER FAMILY. Secondly, get a pre-nuptial agreement both in Thailand and in your own country. Saving yourself heartache and financial disaster is really pretty simple.

By the way, my wife had more money than I did -- but I didn't know that when we met. (I'm not rich, but I'm not poor, either.) On the other hand, I looked for a Thai wife for FIVE YEARS before I met Noi. Not five weeks or five days, fellas.

I realize that a lot of farangs get taken by Thai women, but remember the old saying -- Suckers are born every minute. I don't have much sympathy for all of this.

GG

[Blue Boy]

OK I think frst of all farang (like me) should ask themselves why they came here in the first place. You get what you give and what comes around goes around applies.

So what if marriages are not based on love primarily? Look at the divorce rate in the Occident where people "claim" to marry for love. Not encouraging.

To some extent I know for a fact my Thai wife is with me to better her life and that of her family. Is it easy? no. Is it what I really want deep down inside? No. Is it doable? Yes.

I think love and compassion grow in time, and as long as you know what you are looking for and can be at peace with yourself, then it can be done. Every relationship I have had prior to this one, where I thought love would hold everything together ended.

I feel I was duped by my own needs and fears more before than now.

Just keep eyes and mind and heart open.

[colin howard]

hi blue , as i,ve said before every relationship should be judged on its merits , the big problem of course is that many farangs are just used as a cash cow for all her family and "hangers on", the thing which has always intrigued me is that the farangs thinks this is quite normal and accepts it as part of the thai culture , this of course is utter nonsense , its only thai culture if YOU allow it to be , it would appear in many cases that common sense is abandoned in there eagerness to be "exploited", how you live your life here in thailand is in your hands and yours only , the trend is however to blame everyone but there selves when there relationship hits the skids , i,ve always adhered to the old saying he who pays the piper calls the tune , i seem to be a bit of a pessimist in my opinions , but the pessimists of this world are far less disappointed in the game of life than the optimists , regards , and best of luck , colin .

[Olivier]

Very true, but my best advise is to never marry a thail woman.

They are simply uncompatible with foreigner, full stop. Without going in the thai life details, disonnesty is what they're best at, moreover due to their beautiful cultures and dream that everything is perfect in their societies. They kbow it isn't.
However, as most of them are blind in viewing the reality. Lack of education, ignorance and the deeper problems in the thai society. There are many thailands, and including the ones on the top of the range, there is still a huge gap between them and us.
My wife is from a wealthy industrial export business familly. Altough many of those people live in a cocoon, they're still uncompatible with foreigner. Still i can't do anything interested here as eventough that family connections don't help me, but simply put me away.
Thailand fact, sadly.

[Robert]

Oliver
Welcome to the forum.
I agree with your post.. The cultures and expectations are just too different. No matter whether she comes from the bar or comes from high society, she is still Thai with Thai beliefs.
Perhaps the hi-so is even more of a worry. Those from the high end of society have a much larger face to lose...

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