Avoiding a “hands-on” manager (1)

Unwanted attention for a company executive can be a very unpleasant experience for a secretary or any other woman worker. Here’s an example. We'll read some advice tomorrow.

As you read this, think about what advice you would give to Uma. Tomorrow we will read some advice from a professional.

Career Clinic

By Munthana Thamlikitkul

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How to avoid sexual harassment from a married manager?

I have a terrible problem which needs your help. I am in my mid-30s and pretty good looking. Everybody says I am friendly, polite and humble. However, my life isn't as good and smooth as my outlook.

I come from a middle-class family upcountry. I had to work very hard to get to Bangkok to study because my parents could not afford my university tuition. In fact, I had to work to pay for my tuition and because of that I was unable to attend a government university, despite having good grades in high school.

In the end I graduated with a first class bachelor's degree in English from an open university. My English is good, as is my German and I got a secretarial job at an international law firm where I met my husband. We married and had a daughter.

However, my husband died a year ago after three years marriage, so I am bringing up our two-year-old daughter on my own. We have a close relationship and I enjoy cooking for her (I'm a pretty good cook). My problem is that when the company I work for merged with a big local firm, new management came on board. This was in January of this year.

Unfortunately, I seem to have attracted the attention of one of the new board members. He has come on to me in quite a suggestive way and has even tried to touch me. This man is married and in his mid 40s. He has authority and influence in the company. He invited me to dinner with him last month. What should I do? I can't afford to lose my job or jeopardise my career – I have my daughter to take care of.

I have read your column for a while and remember you had a correspondent with a similar problem. Your recommendation to her (to go to her HR manager) won't work for me because I don't believe my HR manager will stand up to this guy. Part of my problem is that this man is very careful when other people are around and won't try to take advantage unless we are alone. In other words I have no witnesses, which makes filing a complaint with the HR manager even harder. So what should I do? Please help.

Uma

advice – an opinion or a suggestion about what somebody should do in a particular situation  คำแนะนำ
professional – a person who does a job that needs special training and a high level of education ผู้เชี่ยวชาญในวิชาชีพ,ผู้มีวิชาชีพ
avoid – to try to prevent something from happening หลีกเลี่ยง
harassment – annoying or worrying somebody by putting pressure on them or saying or doing unpleasant things to them การคุกคาม(ทางเพศ) sexual harassment
humble – showing you do not think that you are as important as other people ต่ำต้อย,อ่อนน้อมถ่อมตน
outlook – an idea about what a situation will be like in the future  อนาคตที่คาดหวังไว้,  ทัศนคติ
afford – to have enough money to be able to pay for something มีเงิน/ทุนพอ
tuition (fees) – money paid to attend classes ค่าเล่าเรียน
firm – a business or company บริษัม
merger – the act of joining two or more organisations or businesses into one การรวมเข้าด้วยกัน
local – in or related to the area that you live, or to the particular area that you are talking about  ท้องถิ่น
come on board – to join a group, company, organisation, etc. เข้าร่วม
unfortunately – making you sad or disappointed, or getting you into a difficult position น่าเสียดาย
attract – to cause someone to be interested in something ดึงดูดความสนใจ
attention – interest, especially interest that in a person, event, situation etc ความสนใจ
suggestive – making people think about sex เป็นนัยถึงเรื่องทะลึ่ง, ซึ่งชวนให้นึกถึงเรื่องอนาจาร
authority – the power to make decisions or tell people what to do อำนาจ, อำนาจในการสั่งการ
influence – the power to have an effect on people or things อิทธิพล
jeopardise – to risk damaging or destroying something important  เป็นอันตรายต่อ,เป็นภัยต่อ,ทำร่าย,ทำอันตราย
correspondent – a newspaper or television reporter, especially one who deals with a particular subject or area นักข่าว
recommendation – a suggestion for how to solve a problem, deal with a situation ข้อเสนอแนะ
take advantage – to use (often unfairly) for your own benefit เอาเปรียบ, หาประโยชน์ใส่ตัว
witness – a person who sees something happen  ผู้ที่เห็นเหตุการณ์
file a complaint – to make an official statement that someone has done something wrong ยื่นคำร้อง

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