Insults are 'fair game'
Re: "School bullying problem worsening", (BP, Jan 10).
The recent survey concerning bullying is a waste of time and is geared towards fostering a "victim mentality" over non-issues. This is a psychosis that is happening in all cultures and extends beyond children to adults.
You cannot "control" the actions of others -- the only thing you have direct control over is your response to them.
If someone calls you a name or makes "fun" of you, there automatically are four responses; ignore them, agree with them, argue with them, or feel hurt.
The first two responses empower you and leave you in control of your feelings. The last two falsely empower another by your abdicating your responsibility for your feelings or emotions.
Nobody can "make" you happy or sad! You choose to respond with happiness or sadness to the situation. Big difference. This is what emotional intelligence and responsibility for thoughts and feelings rests on.
One would figure in a Buddhist culture, that this would be embodied inherently.
The other delusion associated with this effort is the notion of creating a "safe" environment. Reality and nature do not condone or support safe spaces.
The universe started with a "Big Bang" and our planet will be destroyed by the sun going super nova or the Milky Way being consumed by the black hole in the centre.
Nature itself locally is based on something taking from another for survival, so any effort that does not focus itself in this reality is doomed for failure.
Name slinging is fair game on all levels, physical violence though is a transgression of normal civil behaviour and should be considered a "crime".
Our societal problem collectively is reflected in the fact that there are a plethora of victim-less crimes. If someone is not deprived of life, liberty, or property then there are no transgressions that rise to the level of criminal behaviour.
If the Network of Legal Advocates for Children and Youth (which conducted the survey) truly wants to alleviate the amount of bullying, teach responsibility for thought and feeling and hold people accountable for physical violence.